I don't know what to do in life.

Updated: Oct 1, 2020

Is it time to graduate? Or are you perhaps in the wrong place and you're looking to move? Perhaps, there's an unspoken fear right here: where do I go? What do I do?

Moments of transition are difficult because we have to make choices and our brains are conditioned to take in information via a very particular way, causing us to unconscious delete, distort, or generalise our experiences. Do you find yourself stuck between false dichotomies during stressful situations, only to step back and realise the other possibilities right under your nose?

I remember that I had my life planned out after university. With a job ready for me, I was ready to be a school teacher and to make an impact in the education industry of Singapore. I love education and I love working with young people - so it's cool, isn't it? That was my only route in life and I loved it!

After a while though, I felt dissatisfied. There were definitely really beautiful and valuable moments as a teacher, yet I felt something was still missing. There was some incongruity between what I really wanted to do and what I was doing in life.

And so I stepped back.

And I saw options. Numerous shining options. With the resources I had in my hands, there were many ways to move forward. In fact, there were too many of them and I consequently felt quite overwhelmed.

So I had just one more step. I had to reframe.

I had to see my options through another lens. Who in the right mind would abandon security for risks and "what ifs"? Who in the right mind would turn from a stable income towards an overwhelming sense of uncertainty? Who in the right mind would step out of his comfort zone just to become something greater than he currently is? I was stuck because I didn't know what would happen and I felt helpless. I felt fear and that inter-FEARed with my journey towards greatness. I was looking at the various obstacles from a diminished sense of self and they looked really big. Really really big.

Then something clicked. What if I look at the various options as possibilities instead? Putting on the "as-if" frame, I asked myself: "What would it be like if I did A, B, or C?" They weren't merely options. They were possibilities for growth and possibilities for movement. I no longer felt stuck. I even ended up with a question: how far do I want to go?