I want to look damn good shirtless.

Updated: Oct 12, 2020

Perhaps you've paid thousands of dollars for a personal trainer, or you have tried training at the gym regularly and dieting (not so) regularly. Perhaps you're just stuck - occasionally you have that desire to shape up and look good. That euphoria lasts for a month or so: you're gymming three times a week; you're looking a little better each day in the mirror and perhaps you may even have done up a meal plan and bam! You find yourself back at the bar every weekend again eating and drinking happily with your friends!

It can be difficult to kick and form habits. Our conscious minds may really want to bring our bodies towards a desired state, yet our unconscious minds may not be ready. And before you know it, you have tried so many times over so many years and you may have come to the conclusion that "this is just not for me" or "I have different priorities in life". Since you're still reading this article, I'm pretty damn sure that deep down inside you, you do want to look damn good shirtless.

In the NLP world, a closer look at our strategies can reveal much about why you are still not looking damn good shirtless. And when you look at your strategies - when you look at how you have worked towards your fitness goals in the past - you may then see the minor adjustments that you can make to finally achieve what you want.

It's hard to poke around your strategy with an article, so I'll just leave you with some golden nuggets: here are some questions you may want to ask yourself, so that you can better understand why things are still not working out:

1) What specifically do you want?

Ask yourself the "miracle question". If you wake up tomorrow morning and you have achieved this goal of yours, what specifically do you see? What specifically do you hear yourself say and what do you hear others say? How specifically do you feel? Being sensory-specific can help to put you in a better frame of mind to systematically plan for this journey of yours.

2) Be honest - on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being not so much and 10 being a lot, how much do you want this?

It really does not matter if you're on the lower end of the scale. This just helps you better understand your answers to the subsequent questions.

3) What have you specifically done in the past to achieve your fitness goals?

List down everything that you have done thus far. Be very specific. Have you approached a trainer? Who have you approached? What did you do as a result of the coaching sessions with the trainer? Have you used an app? Which app did you use? How frequently did you use the app? Did you track your food intake? Did you track your exercise regime? How frequently? How long did your attempt last?

4) What specifically stops you from achieving your fitness goals?

Look back at the times when you have deviated from your plans. What were the specific pitfalls? Be really specific here. Describe what really happened, how it happened, why it happened etc.

5) Do you see a trend with regards to your specific pitfalls?

These trends are patterns that our brain uses to navigate the world. At times, we love patterns formed by our brains because they help us to 'do things unconsciously'. For instance, when we leave our houses in the morning and commute to work, we may not be entirely aware of ourselves locking our front door, taking the elevator, or walking past specific people. And this pattern is cool because consciously thinking about everything that you experience can be really tiring! Nevertheless, there are also patterns in our lives that we want to break. That we want to disrupt right now. You do want to identify those patterns now, don't you? So when do you want to begin looking damn good shirtless? How far do you want to go?

P.S. if you want to learn more about how you can disrupt undesirable patterns and strategies in life, click here. You'll find out more about how the brain works and what we can do to finally achieve our (bodybuilding, relationship, and career) goals! And if you want to, you can also read more about the uses of NLP for the gym rat here.