#11 People are not their behaviors.
This is a hard one. We often associate people with their behaviors because it's hard not to do so. I once had a client who loved to talk about his personal experiences and through his sharing, he may, sometimes unknowingly, impose his beliefs and values on others. I was his coach, though he was definitely much more experienced in the area of business, and so, during a casual conversation when I started relating thoughts about how I wanted to run my coaching business, he gave a chuckle and quipped in a somewhat condescending tone, "That's not the way you should do things, young man."
Of course, it's easy to take offence and end the conversation there. But what brought about more possibilities was a sense of curiosity. Why did he say that? What values or beliefs did he hold close to him, such that they had caused him to make such a remark? With a frame of curiosity, we can choose to continue learning about a person despite his or her behaviours, so that we understand where they come from. How cool is that?!
#12 Respecting other people's maps is ecological.
Ultimately, it's about respecting another person's map of the world, so that we have the option to interact further and to know more about them. Shutting down a relationship has its consequences, and keeping it alive brings about more opportunities. What exactly do you want, my friend? It's your choice.
#13 Your results are your responsibility.
And it's your responsibility. After learning NLP, you'll realise that your experience of this world primarily comprises choices that you can make to get the results you want. With such a mindset in place even as you learn more about what NLP can do for you, please be responsible with your choices! You now have no one but yourself to blame for your failures, as well as for your SUCCESSES OF COURSE! How ready are you for change?